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Dating & Friendship for the Over 40s...

First Impressions


He was standing near the bar with his back to me which gave me a chance to take in the fact that he had made an effort he was wearing a light grey suit, something made him turn around and our eyes met and we both started to smile and walk towards one another.

“Hello John” I said and we gave each other a hug and a kiss on the cheek. It felt so strange after talking to someone for months online, then on the phone and now meeting in person. Online dating seems to accelerate everything and somehow you feel like you really know a person before you actually meet them. My way of describing this would be that you get to know a person inside out if that makes sense.  It’s more a case of getting to know their thoughts and feelings about things. Yes you have a photograph to look at but until you meet in person you do not get the full take of someone.

He asked me what I wanted to drink and I said a coffee would be fine and we sat down at a nearby table just smiling at each other. I kept repeating this is so bizarre  I am sat with John from the site after months of talking and never thinking that we would ever meet.

He laughed and said well distance is only a problem if you let it be, I had to agree and if I am honest long distance relationships tend to give you quality time as opposed to a few hours here and there.   We drank our drinks and decided to order a meal we were so similar in our likes and dislikes we both ordered fish and sat back waiting for it to arrive.

It had taken him six and a half hours to get from his house to our meeting place. “Aren’t you tired” I asked him; “Not at all”, he replied “it was a good run over and I just kept thinking every mile is bringing me closer to you”.  This made me laugh, “Are you trying to charm me now John” I asked him.

Our meal arrived and we continued to chat about anything and everything, there were no awkward silences, I knew there would not be it felt so natural, I felt like I had known him all my life.  We decided to push the boat out and have a dessert, bread and butter pudding with lots of custard real comfort food although I did not feel that I needed comforting.

He was everything that I had hoped for and more, to see someone in the flesh is so different from a photograph and I loved the way he laughed. We ordered a coffee and he reached his hand across the table towards mine. I knew that we were meant to meet as soon as I saw your photograph he said. Something told me that you were a very special lady and now that we have met in person I know I was right.

It would seem that long distance was not going to cause us any problems but time would tell.  

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