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Dating & Friendship for the Over 40s...

Is he the one?


After receiving a few winks from a new member to the site, I was intrigued. Was that all he was going to do?

After looking at his profile several times, I decided to take matters into my own hand. I emailed him the following –

‘Hello Richard, thank you for the winks.  What do you think to the site then? I wondered if you were ever going to send me a message, or do you just like to wink at all the ladies?’

Fairly soon I got the following response –

‘Hoy you –

What is all this waiting for me to get in touch? ‘

Then a wink, followed by another message –

‘Are we going to meet up for a beer then?’ (With his phone number)

Result: I quickly typed my mobile number and sent it to him. Then, shortly after, my phone rang.

He sounded lovely and we arranged to meet the following evening at a lovely country pub/restaurant, which was halfway between where we both lived.

The usual nerves began to kick in with me during the afternoon. I wonder if I would ever get over the nervousness of meeting someone new. Some people find it exciting, but I am just plain nervous.

I decided that because it had been a lovely sunny day, I would put on a long floaty dress and a short cardigan.

Hmm… I looked quite good and pleased with the result, so I set off to the allotted destination.

I arrived 5 minutes early and as I pulled into the car park, I saw him waiting. My heart gave a little jump with excitement; it was very strange because he was not at all my usual type.


I am 5ft 8 and usually like taller men. He was approx. 5ft 7, although he had said he was 5ft 9.

He was quite slender, and I usually go for a stocky build.

I am only 56; he was 63, the oldest man I had met from the site.

Anyway, I got out of the car to go and greet him. He had a big smile on his face, which matched mine.

We walked in to the pub and I said I would like to buy him the first drink.

He replied – ‘No, let me’

I insisted and bought him a pint, and I had a tonic and lime. We went to sit outside in the beer garden, which had a stream running alongside. Enjoying the last hour of the sun we sat there chatting for a couple of hours. Then, we decided to go inside, went to sit on a settee and had a coffee.

It felt so relaxed and natural and we found each other sat staring in to each others eyes.

Then I knew that this was the elusive spark, which I had read about so many times. We could not take our eyes off each other and he leaned over and gave me a gentle kiss.

 Could be the one!