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Keep positive

When I logged on to the Mature Free and Single website I began reading the diary entries I noticed that there was one that was very negative from a man called Pete. He was complaining saying that he was not getting any response from the site and was bemoaning his fate saying that he knew that he was not the best looking guy or even the most richest man on earth, but surely someone must fancy him. I read his profile which was very short and to the point.

“Straight talking man looking for a local woman who does not want to waste my time, but would like to meet up and share the costs of a few trips out”. His photograph showed what looked like a passport photograph in which he had a very dour expression on his face.

I smiled to myself and shook my head I was not surprised that he was not getting any response from the ladies on the site and thought I would send him, what I hoped would be an encouraging email in response to his diary entry.

Now, how should I write this, should I be straight talking or more gentle? He did say in his profile that he was a straight talking man, but no one wants hurting. I wondered if he had a sense of humour because it certainly did not come across on his profile.

I quickly wrote “Hi Pete, after just reading your diary entry I felt I should write to you to say I understand your frustration but there are things that you can do to get a better response, I would be happy to give you a few suggestions if you are open to them”. I pressed the send button and began reading the other diary entries which were thankfully more cheerful.

About ten minutes later an email pinged into my email box from Pete which said “This should be interesting, go on then if you’re the expert. Tell me where I have been going wrong”.

I cringed this was not going to be easy but I still felt compelled to give him some what I hoped he would think would be constructive advice.

“Well Pete” I began typing “you know that they say that the way to a woman’s heart is to make her laugh”. “Well, your photograph is a little bit scary” and I added a little smiley face to soften the blow. “May I suggest that you replace your photograph with a happier photo?” 

“Although I think it is great to be straight talking and to expect a lady to go dutch or at least take turns in footing the bill that sort of conversation comes in when you are getting to know someone.” I then quickly put in brackets that this was just a suggestion. I pressed send and sat back, this was going to go one of two ways he was going to take my suggestions in a good or bad way. Time would tell what his response would be.

To be continued……