I could not stop smiling, I was so impressed that Ian had put a photograph on the site, but the fact he wrote about it in his diary entry absolutely amazed me so I decided to write him an email complimenting him on both his diary entry and his photograph. I was just in the process of writing the email when I received a wink. I looked to see who it was from and it was from Ian who then instant messaged me saying “Surprise”!
You’re not joking I replied, talk about taking the bull by the horns! Not only have you finally posted a photograph, but now also a diary entry.
He shot back “lol” and wrote “I cannot believe how liberating it has been for me, I wish I had done it sooner. I feel completely different about the site now”. He went on to tell me that he had received lots of supportive emails complimenting him on his photo and his diary entry, but the best thing was that he now felt part of the site rather than just a number.
Don’t get me wrong, to join a site like Mature Free and Single does involve putting yourself out there for all to see and for some it can be a little bit scary. Because the site is for over 40’s it follows that some of the members will have some baggage and insecurities. I know that for a fact because I felt that I may be judged because I was not a perfect size 12. I know that now, because it does seem to me that on a mature dating site some of the men are looking to find love and companionship and the body is not as important as it was in younger years. It would appear to me that as we get older our priorities change.
I relayed this to Ian and he could see where I was coming from. Don’t get me wrong there will always be a minority of men and women who are blinkered and they are looking for someone who has a certain look, income and lifestyle before they will even enter into any communication. Everyone has the right to find the person who they believe will fulfill what they are looking for, but what keeps me looking is the fact that there are so many lovely genuine people on the site all looking for friendship and or a serious relationship.
Ian went on to tell me that he had been emailing a lady called Linda, who lived locally to him and had looked at his profile a few times, but because he did not have a photograph and his profile was very brief, she did not contact him. Then after seeing his photo and reading his diary entry, which obviously was letting his true personality come through, she decided to contact him.
We chatted for a bit longer before Ian told me that Linda had just come online and that they had both agreed to get to know a bit more about each other through chatting to each other online .
He thanked me again for suggesting he put his photograph online and we both agreed to chat again in a few days’ time.
I smiled to myself and logged off the site, hoping that things would work out well for Ian and Linda.