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Dating & Friendship for the Over 40s...

Taking a photo


Now if you are anything like me, you won’t particularly enjoy having your photograph taken. It feels even worse when you think that lots of members of the opposite sex will be viewing you in all your glory!

I think that it is important to have a photograph online, otherwise, you probably won’t attract the person you would like to attract. Let’s be honest, not having a photograph on a profile is being a little bit optimistic that you are going to be contacted at all, unless it is by a like minded soul who also wants to remain faceless! 

I have tried the experiment of not having a photo displayed, and wandered around the site, messaging people, only to be in the main ignored! Then, amazingly, when a photo goes back online, the messages are returned, and people send winks and messages. This proves to me that photographs work!

It amuses me, when I am messaged by a faceless person, then asked to see more of me!

When I take any photos, I tend to take lots, because it is very rare that if you take a dozen, only one of them will be what you feel happy with. I have noticed that some members leave just one or two photos that are maybe years old. WHY? Doing that can only lead to disappointment.

I once had a date with an ex-rugby player. I had seen his photo online, and thought ‘Mmm, nice and hunky’, only to meet up with him, and he had lost three and a half stones. The photo had been a snap taken on holiday, when he was rested and tanned; now it was a different version, much lighter in both colour and weight that met me on the date!

Also, a photograph alone is better than a group shot, where the would-be dater is in the middle, behind a group of friends. Or hiding behind a dog. Or a dot on the horizon, or under a floppy hat. I could go on and on.  

I decided one day that I would ask my daughter to help me out, take some photographs, and we actually had lots of fun. It was hard to be serious; it was like a fashion show, with me running in and out of the room, trying on various outfits. Only to walk through the door to be told –

 ‘No Mum, that’s not a good look’

When I eventually had a collection, I rotated them, to keep the interest of other members, as well of the new members who are joining daily.

All in all, this mature dating is a lot of fun, and if you can get your profile and photograph right, then the world really is your oyster.

Happy fishing x



2 Responses

  1. Paul

    Good advice as usual Elaine! I agree completey – a picture can tell a thousand words 🙂

  2. WHY do men and women even date on line? .what`s wrong with them that they can`t get a date? why the lies?..if you meet the stranger you are about to date it might be oibuovs you aren`t 5`7, weigh 125, have blond hair and blue eyes ) .I don`t get it.